To Tip or Not to Tip? A Thoughtful Guide to Thanking Your Wedding Vendors
- jenndaviseventplan
- May 12
- 3 min read
It's wedding season! My clients have been asking me about tipping their vendors—who to tip, how much, and whether it's even necessary. Well, here’s the lowdown on tipping etiquette and my personal opinion as a vendor myself.
Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event—and chances are, there’s a team of professionals working behind the scenes to make it unforgettable. From planners and photographers to florists and DJs, these vendors help bring your vision to life. So it’s no surprise that one of the most frequently asked questions during wedding planning is:
“Am I supposed to tip my wedding vendors?”
The short answer? Tipping is not always required—but it’s often a lovely gesture of appreciation. That said, not every vendor expects a tip, and every couple has a different budget. So let’s walk through the etiquette, the exceptions, and what matters most—especially when working with small business owners like me.
What’s the Etiquette on Tipping Wedding Vendors?
Unlike the restaurant industry where tipping is standard practice, the wedding industry is a bit more nuanced. Many vendors set their prices to reflect the full value of their services, which means tips aren't always expected. However, if someone goes above and beyond—staying late, solving unexpected problems, or delivering an extraordinary experience—a tip can be a kind and generous thank-you.
Here’s a basic guide to tipping, based on vendor type:
Hair & Makeup Artists Tip: 15–25% of their service cost Think of this just like a salon appointment.
Catering Staff, Servers, Bartenders Tip: 15–20%, or $25–$50 per staff member Sometimes gratuity is already included in your contract—always check first.
Transportation (Drivers, Shuttles, Limos) Tip: 10–20% Especially appreciated for long waits or last-minute route changes.
DJs & Live Bands Tip: $50–$150 per person Did they keep the dance floor alive all night? Tip away!
Photographers & Videographers Tip: $50–$200 per person If they’re the business owner, a tip isn’t expected but is a generous thank-you for exceptional work.
Planners & Coordinators Tip: $100–$500 depending on the scope Again, not required—but if your planner went above and beyond, a tip (or a gift) is deeply appreciated.
Officiant Tip: $50–$100 or a donation If they’re affiliated with a church or temple, a donation to the institution is often appropriate.
A Personal Note from Me: What Matters Most
Now that we’ve covered the traditional side of tipping, here’s where I get personal.
Yes, a tip is always appreciated. It means the world to be acknowledged for my hard work and commitment to making your wedding the best it can be. But do you know what truly makes my day (and supports my business even more)?
Your kind review
Your word-of-mouth referral
A tag on social media when you share your photos
These small actions go a long way in helping me grow. Reviews help build trust with future couples. Tags on Instagram show off my work and reach new audiences. And when you recommend me to a friend? That’s the highest compliment I could ever receive.
Thoughtful Ways to Say “Thank You” (That Aren’t Just Tips)
Write a heartfelt review on Google, The Knot, or wherever you found me
Tag me in your photos or videos on Instagram
Send a thank-you email or card with a photo from your big day
Refer me to a newly engaged friend
Leave a tip if you're able—and only if it feels right for you
Final Thoughts
Weddings are filled with emotion, excitement, and so much planning. When it’s all said and done, the goal is for your vendors to leave you feeling cared for and supported. And if they did that? A simple gesture—whether it’s a tip, a kind word, or a glowing review—goes a long way.
At the end of the day, gratitude is what matters most. However you choose to express it, just know it’s always appreciated more than you know.
As always, Thank you for letting me be a part of your story.
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