As an event planner, my phone is always ringing with requests for baby showers. And why not? A baby shower is one of the most joyous, heartwarming events you can host. As a mom of two, I know firsthand that being a parent is one of the most challenging—and rewarding—journeys you’ll ever experience.
There are moments of pure joy, but also plenty of ups and downs, tears, and emotions running high. That’s why before the big day arrives, it’s essential to take a little time to celebrate the new life that's coming into the world with a shower of love and gifts.
But what exactly is a baby shower? A baby shower is a celebration that marks the impending birth of a baby. It’s a way for friends and family to come together and ‘shower’ the parents-to-be with essentials, gifts, and most importantly, their support. Whether you're the one hosting the event or just attending, here’s a guide on the do’s and don'ts to make the experience unforgettable (for all the right reasons).
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Do's of Planning a Baby Shower:
1. Plan Ahead
Start planning at least 6-8 weeks in advance. This allows time for invitations to be sent, RSVPs to be gathered, and any necessary arrangements—such as catering, decor, or rental equipment—to be made. The more time you have, the less stressful the process will be for everyone involved.
2. Personalize the Theme
Make sure the theme reflects the parents-to-be's personality and style. Whether it’s a classic pastel color scheme, a fun jungle theme, or something gender-neutral, adding personal touches makes the event feel special and meaningful. Do they have a favorite color? A love for books? Maybe they’re into boho chic? Personalization makes the event more memorable and lets the parents-to-be feel the love from the very beginning.
3. Take Dietary Needs into Account
You’ll want to make sure there are food options for all your guests. Does anyone have allergies or dietary restrictions? Offering vegetarian, gluten-free, or dairy-free options ensures everyone feels included and appreciated. It’s also smart to check with the mom-to-be if there are any foods she’s craving—or more importantly, any foods she should avoid during her pregnancy.
4. Get Creative with the Games
A good baby shower game can break the ice and bring some laughs. Instead of the usual "guess the baby food" or "how many candies in the bottle" game, think outside the box. Perhaps a "baby name race" where guests try to come up with unique names, or a "parenting advice" circle where everyone shares funny or meaningful advice. Keep it light-hearted and fun—games should add to the joy, not create stress.
5. Incorporate the Registry
The whole purpose of a baby shower is to help the parents-to-be with the baby’s essentials, and a registry is your best friend in this. Include the baby registry link in the invitations so guests know exactly what the parents need. Plus, a registry takes the guesswork out of gift-giving, ensuring that the gifts are practical and thoughtful.
6. Create a Relaxed Atmosphere
A baby shower should be fun, not overly formal. Keep the vibe light and welcoming. Provide comfortable seating, maybe a few cozy corners for people to chat and relax, and plenty of space for mingling. And don’t forget the music—soft background tunes can set the perfect mood.
Don’ts of Planning a Baby Shower:
1. Don't Overwhelm the Mom-to-Be
While it’s exciting to celebrate the upcoming arrival, keep in mind that the mom-to-be might be feeling tired, stressed, or overwhelmed. This is a time to support her, not add to her worries. Avoid pushing her to play every game or talk to every guest. Allow her to take breaks as needed and keep the schedule relaxed.
2. Don’t Forget About the Dad
Traditionally, baby showers are focused on the mom-to-be, but dads are just as important in the process of welcoming a new baby. Include the dad-to-be in the event, whether it’s through a fun co-ed baby shower or simply acknowledging his role in the celebration. You can also consider hosting a “diaper party” for him and his friends where the focus is on stocking up on diapers and baby wipes.
3. Don’t Go Overboard with the Decor
While beautiful decorations make the event feel festive, don’t get too carried away. You don’t need to transform your space into an entirely different world. Stick to a few key pieces, like a statement backdrop, centerpieces, and small personalized touches like baby shoes or clothes hanging around the room. Less is often more when it comes to decor.
4. Don’t Force Guests to Bring Gifts
While gifts are traditionally part of the baby shower, it’s important not to pressure guests into buying elaborate presents. Some guests might not be able to afford expensive gifts, and that’s okay. A heartfelt card or a handmade item can be just as meaningful. Let guests know that their presence is what truly matters, not the price of the gift.
5. Don’t Ignore the Timing
Timing is everything when it comes to a baby shower. Aim for a time that works for most guests and doesn’t coincide with major holidays or other big events. Also, remember that the third trimester of pregnancy can be exhausting, so avoid scheduling the shower too late in the pregnancy. The ideal time is usually around the 28th to 34th week—early enough to ensure the mom-to-be is still feeling energetic, but not so close to the due date that it becomes stressful.
6. Don’t Skip the Thank-You's
Once the event is over, remind the parents-to-be to send thank-you notes to their guests for attending and for the thoughtful gifts. This simple gesture shows appreciation and helps keep the positive vibes going long after the party ends.
Wrapping It Up
Planning a baby shower is all about creating a joyful, supportive atmosphere for the parents-to-be, giving them a chance to relax and enjoy the excitement of their growing family. If you keep these do's and don'ts in mind, you’ll ensure the celebration is fun, memorable, and stress-free for everyone involved.
As an event planner and a mom who’s been there, I can tell you that a well-planned baby shower can go a long way in lifting spirits, easing anxieties, and setting the stage for the new chapter in the parents’ lives. After all, it’s not just about the gifts—it’s about celebrating the arrival of a new little one with love, laughter, and support from those who care most. I'm here to assist in planning these special life events.
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